By now you’ve all probably have heard of The Skeptic Feminist shooting. If you haven’t, in short it’s alleged one of the three members of TSF had a PTSD episode or something to that effect. Somehow, unfortunately, this led him to shoot and kill one of the other members of TSF who was also his girlfriend. He was apparently taken to a hospital, before to a police station to be charged. Its a tragedy that’s hitting a lot of people, as alot of people were friends with the three members of TSF.
Not only has someone’s life ended, but two people’s lives are ruined too – and the shockwaves of that are rippling through our little internet community. To which I must say thank you to all the people who have been reaching out to comfort those affected and call out some of the more heinous statements being made by assholes. You guys rock.
And by the above I mean the actual assholes. The ones who are out right laughing at the fact someone has died – which I’ve personally seen and had to call out. I’m not going to post any examples here because I don’t want to give their assholery airtime. But what I’m not talking about is making jokes, I’m totally fine with jokes.
I think jokes about tragedy are a really important part of human nature, of processing and getting through stuff. I’ve my own fair share of tragedy and without humour I don’t think I’d have made it through to be the semi-well rounded individual I am today. Jokes are absolutely necessary to the process of dealing with an event like this one. I would never stand against making jokes about this. Though I would ask you have a smidgen of tact – though I’m not going to draw the line in the sand for you. That’s on you to decide.
However, one thing I do keep hearing is that “we’re not mocking a death we’re mocking a killer!” and I really don’t think this is as good a defence as it first seems. I got into this discussion with Sargon of Akkad last night after hearing him say it on his live stream. He talked about a couple of examples of jokes being made, including this one from @HarmfulOpinions.
Which again, I’m okay with the joke being made – but to argue this isn’t inherently about the fact someone died is just false. Its kind of cowardly that you’re willing to make and defend these jokes, but refuse to actually stand by the actions you’re doing. Its a total cop-out. Arguing semantics that the focus of the joke is the killer and not the victim doesn’t change the fact that you need to have a victim for this joke to make sense.
If these are the jokes you want to make, for whatever reason, you’re free to make them. I’m not your mum and I’m not going to wag my finger of morality at you and tell you what to do. But I will tell you that your defence for the thing you’re doing is a crappy argument and if you need to argue such a weak semantic defence in the first place – doesn’t that kinda imply you think what you’re doing is wrong anyway?
Anyway, this tragedy sucks and I urge you all to look out for any charity raising stuff going on. I’ve heard of a few going around and yeah – it would be dope if people could help out and maybe help prevent this kinda thing happening again in the future.
Stay good ❤