Now this is a topic that comes up quite often surrounding trans people. I can get why, human curiosity compels people to know, and its not unusual for people to ask. I know a lot of trans people who get offended by that, but heck that noise, I’d way rather people want to know stuff, than just be ignorant as a base to deny me rights and treat me badly. At least if they’re asking questions I can give them a good answer and maybe it will help their perception of trans people a little. So that’s what I’m doing here today.
This post comes about after Riley made a video I didn’t watch, because I generally don’t care about what other people think about the sex lives of people they don’t even know. In my opinion? Sex is personal, between you and your partner(s). Whatever you do to get off is not my business as long as everyone’s consented and having a great time. Wax dripping on you. Whipping. Rimming. Fisting. Choking or even just vanilla as heck. I have not a single care for what you do in your bedroom. (One of those is something I enjoy. You can debate amongst yourselves which one.)
The sex you enjoy doesn’t fundamentally change you as a person. If you’re a woman and you like to peg dudes, you don’t suddenly become a gay man any more than a man who likes to get fucked in the ass becomes a woman. I think the same applies for trans women. However Blaire White doesn’t seem to agree, and this kinda harks back to her stance as “being a caricature of a woman” – in her own words. She doesn’t see trans women as really women, not even herself, and that leads her to say stuff like:
While also saying stuff like:
and also remarkably:
Which – normally I wouldn’t care about at all. Normally I would’ve just been like nice opinions bro. But since Blaire has decided that she was going to take the swing at Riley Jay Dennis for opinions that don’t really concern her, allow me to return the favour.
See from Blaire’s perspective, she’s just a man playing dress-up, as is Riley. So when she talks about sex and relationships its the biological sex of your body that matters. So again, by Blaire’s own logic, she’s a homosexual, as she dates and presumably has sex with a man. From this perspective, of focusing on biology, she would be correct to say that Riley and her girlfriend’s sex is “heterosexual”.
Though this fundamentally ignores a super important part of being trans – the belief that you are of the opposite sex and the desire to transition your presentation to match that. That means that when we’re talking about trans people, biology is a pretty bad indicator of whether to call their sex heterosexual or not. This covers all trans people pretty well even pre-trans, and that water only gets even more cloudy when you take into account transition of biological features, transition of gender presentation and even genital reassignment.
None of this is to say it changes the rule for cis people at all, it obviously doesn’t. Heterosexual and homosexual and bisexual as terms only really work where sex and gender align, but in cases like trans people where they don’t, they become kinda less easy to pin on trans people. This is why I don’t usually call myself straight or gay or lesbian, though I will to annoy TERFs sometimes and if I’m talking to someone in real life I’ll describe my relationship as “a lesbian relationship” so that I don’t out myself as trans.
Trans and intersex kinda exist in a sex and relationships grey area. The typical rules don’t apply because we are not typical people. So this whole argument about whether having sex with trans women is gay or not? Its neither and both at the same time and it just doesn’t matter as long as you and you trap waifu are having great sex.
I’ve written before about my idea of sexuality and how labels don’t tend to do anything but constrict people into boxes. Both Blaire and Riley are kinda dumb for playing the label game about this in my opinion. Fuck who you wanna fuck and however you wanna fuck them. That’s my motto.
Also lol Blaire, how you gonna whine about people using their D for sex when you don’t even get genital dysphoria? Isn’t calling them a transtrender a tad hypocritical of you? Where do we draw the line on the trans purity test?
Also ironically, Blaire’s standpoint is straight up Blanchard’s Typology. “Transbians” ie fetishists vs the “homosexual” transsexuals – the ones who were just gay men who couldn’t face being gay in society. Is that really what you think you are Blaire? A gay man? More on Blanchard at some point in the future~